Jess and Louie’s Birth Story

Jess and Louie’s Birth Story

I waddled to the loo and told Shanay to call Annette. My waters were clear so she said to keep doing what we were doing and to call again when I switch to animal mode. I had a few really strong contractions there on the toilet, one hand on the towel rail and one hand on the wall. The force coming from inside my body made me push my arms against the wall so hard, I thought I might break right through it. Andy and Shanay were right there with me, trying to coax me back into the bedroom where I would be more comfortable, but I could not and did not want to move. I wanted to poo! I stayed there for a moment, and then suddenly I felt like I needed to push and I switched to full beast mode. I still laugh whenever I remember the way the words came out of me as I said “I ne-ee-ee-ed to pu-uu-uu-sh!!”. Shanay called Annette back and I still remember her saying in a timid voice, as if she didn’t believe what had happened in the short time she had been at our home “Um, she says she needs to push”.

Andy and Shanay helped me off the loo and I had a few contractions on the floor in the hallway. The birthing pool still wasn’t full (it was 7pm now) so they helped me back to my bedroom where I knelt on the floor with my elbows on the bed. I was overwhelmed with this sensation that was coming from inside me. I wasn’t sure if I was even supposed to be pushing because I didn’t know if I was even fully dilated but the urge was overwhelming. I kept thinking about Sunni’s birth story that I had read two nights earlier, and how she said pushing felt incredible. It did. With each wave I let out the most guttural, beastly groans. Not like a cow or a lion, like some other animal I have never even heard before. I wanted to see if I could feel his head – to see if he really was moving down my birth canal – but I somehow still had my knickers on and it was impossible to move enough to to get them off.

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Tips and Recipes for Milk Supply

Tips and Recipes for Milk Supply

I’m by no means a breastfeeding expert, nor do I wish for this blog post to replace the bounty of information on blogs such as Kelly Mom, where you can find really good advice about all things breastfeeding. I’m just a lady with a baby who had no problems with milk supply and aside from a few bouts of mastitis, a really nice time breastfeeding. The fact that our bodies fill our boobs with liquid that we use to feed our babies is really quite miraculous. They do it all by themselves! No buttons or switches necessary. Yet there seems to be a fear, from every new mum including myself, that their supply won’t be adequate. I wanted to share a few tips and recipes that might be helpful to other new mamas and hopefully quash those low milk supply fears. All I know is that this is what worked for me and so, placebo or science, it doesn’t really matter, right?

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On Children – Kahlil Gibran

On Children – Kahlil Gibran

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.

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Pregnancy: Read, Watch, Do.

Pregnancy: Read, Watch, Do.

Childbirth is the most natural thing in the world yet somehow, instead of feeling empowered during their pregnancy, many women feel afraid. If you are scared of giving birth, or doubt your body’s capabilities in any way, then please please please reconnect with the goddess warrior inside you and utilise some of the books, documentaries and practices that helped me. I’m not necessarily suggesting you have a home birth, because I truly believe that a woman will be safest wherever she feels the most safe and comfortable. But birth is one of the coolest things you will ever experience and it is your right as a woman to conquer it fearlessly. When I think about Louie’s birth I feel ecstatic. I often laugh. It was incredible. Our bodies are incredible.
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“We believe that motherhood is the highest form of manifestation of the genius of the creative spirit of nature.

“We believe that motherhood is the highest form of manifestation of the genius of the creative spirit of nature.

It’s enemies are those who are blind to the dignity of motherhood and the spiritual potential of her primary purpose. They worship the golden calf of science and so seek a national hero to whom they may ascribe the works of God”

– Grantly Dick-Read in Birth Without Fear

– The Three Ages of Woman, Gustav Klimt, Oil on Canvas, 1905

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